Bulls, Dragons & Swingles

A brief overview of the single male in a pineapple world

I first want to thank all the single lads who responded to my post. We appreciate an active community that guides our discussion.

The life of a single male in the LS can be one of challenge, heartbreak and ultimately reward.

Firstly we can’t start a discussion about single males without addressing the most significant issue, the wrong single male will be the one sliding into your dms unwanted, sending the dirty pic without permission or hitting on your partner as soon as you turn your back!

There is a lot of dodgy, annoying men out there who show no respect, or values and struggle to adhere to basic rules and boundaries. If you have been in the lifestyle longer than five minutes you would likely have experienced that already, however, the reality is, in this lifestyle, there are good and bad in every dynamic or demographic, and if you open yourself up to finding a decent guy, you have the opportunity to expand and enhance your dynamic in the most beautiful, empowering and energising ways!!!

As a single male, it is often hard to break the stigma associated and can make navigating the lifestyle challenging and often seem impossible but the reward of finding a couple /single that you can connect with is worth the price of admission!

Deciding to introduce a Bull, Dragon or Swingle into your life can be more difficult than looking for the elusive Unicorn at times, whilst the most common complaint from couples is that there are too many men at times the reality is finding the right connection between you and a single male can be a nightmare and often leads to a flat feeling that it feels almost impossible despite the numbers you see in front of you.

However like with any dynamic, once you find that right person or people it can take things to a whole other dimension, there are so many dynamics that can be played out with the introduction of a Bull, Dragon or Swingle and like any other dynamic in the lifestyle it can bring joy, happiness and many magical memories.

The key to success is remembering that when you find the right partner to confirm their desires, expected outcomes, needs and boundaries. A single male should be treated with the same level of respect and appreciation as you would associate with any other dynamic, clear communication and expectations from all parties can help ensure a successful, enjoyable outcome whether it’s short-lived or develops over time.

I often tell my vanilla friends that being a swinger is often hard work and can feel like a nightmare at times, the thought of just chucking your keys in a bowl and going with whatever comes out seems so easy but in reality, our lifestyle is growing more with people that need some level of connection, excitement or interest and when you add more than one partner into the mix there’s so many more feelings, personalities and desires to consider it can be like a full-time job balancing the scales, but as we all know when those scales work out right there’s no better way to live, I might be biased but there’s so many amazing things that can come from introducing others to your dynamic, it all starts with taking the first step and opening your mind to the opportunities and experiences that await!